Be

Today, people worry about being themselves or being something. The best way to achieve this is to just be. In a world where you can be courageous, smart, beautiful, funny, etcetera, sometimes it is best to just be. One problem with this world is that there are too many people trying to make this world work. Some of us need to just let the world happen. This is not saying that a few select people need to rule the world, but everyone cannot do everything at the same time. Stepping back and letting someone else handle problems is sometimes best. If no one steps up, then there is another lesson learned. This is one thing that is easier said than done. A change like this will not happen over night. With gradual steps by everyone, or a majority, some degree of change will happen. Of course, in order for this to work, everyone has to believe in the same thing. That's impossible. A fascinating thing about this world is that there are several things to believe, or not believe in. If you step back and be, you will begin to notice.

Free Reign

It seems the people that we are the most intolerant with are the people we are closest to. It is not everyday that strangers walk up to each other and tell them their worst quality. Comments like that usually come from loved ones and close friends. If they are close and you love them, why hurt them? It is understandable that the closer you get with someone the less restrictions there are on conversations. At the same time, there is a vast wall between what is acceptable and when you are just breaking a person down. Teasing and jokes are common, but when it is taken too far a person might as well say, "I will never let anyone hurt you-- except me." Just because you have free reign with someone does not give you the right to make that person feel horrible about his or herself.

Greatness

We are all great when compared to someone, or something else. When the other person or thing is taken away, how great are we really? Think about it. The phrase, "At least I'm not... like... is." is used numerous times in one day. Instead of throwing someone else under us, we can use that energy to do or change something we are not happy about. People get so caught up in comparing what they have to what others have that they do not notice what they have. Making ourselves feel better while making someone else feel bad is a parasitic cycle that most humans get caught in. There is no point in comparing, when in the end you are right back where you started. While competition is great, to a small extent, it gets in the way of the real goal-- living. Yes, it is good to improve your life, but if you are doing it because someone else is above you, it is not worth it. I wonder if that is the reason why people get miserable as they get older.

Accidents

It's a known fact that people say the wrong things in many situations. Being that everyone "should" know that, it should not be taken to heart when people say something wrong. Now, there are many circumstances where this can or cannot be applied. Speaking in general terms, everyone is not out to get you. People are going to do and say things that make you upset. One thing that is key to remember is that the reason for their actions, or lack of, is sometimes not because of you. This goes along with egos. Most times when people are livings their lives, they are not thinking of one person all of the time. All in all, next time someone accidentally hurts you (not physically), remember that you probably were not on their mind when it happened.

Wisdom

Wisdom is measured in how much a person does not know. People are caught up in what they do know and forget about what they do not know. Everything is infinite, so one cannot know it. Everything includes feelings, thoughts, facts, ideas, etcetera. If a person knows the feeling of knowing everything, he or she cannot not know-- or remember, the feeling of not knowing everything. A wise person knows that he or she is not able to know everything, and therefore does not act like it.

Self-Reliance

People were not made to be alone. We were born to find someone. This does not mean it will be romantic. It just means there is someone we were born to help. Whether we know it or not, we have found that someone multiple times. Each time we walk in or out of someone's life we help them. If it's a bad relationship, then we have helped them learn what not to do. No matter how much a person does not want to admit it, we all need help. Self-reliance only goes so far. Once it runs out, a person picks up. Saying, "I don't need you." does not change the fact that we do need people. We need everyone. If we are shaped by our environment then, people's thoughts, ideas, and actions shape us. As we grow up, the people we are surrounded by help us develop. When we get older, they continue to change us even if it is not noticeable. You need everyone and everyone needs you. Without each individual "you," the world would be nothing.

A Beautiful Creation

Life is the hardest thing anyone will have to go through. It's filled with setbacks, obstacles, and things that make you wonder what you are doing. At the same time, life is the most beautiful creation. All of the negative aspects bring people to see the joyous part. One thing that many people forget is that everyone has it hard. It may not be in the same ways, but everyone has problems. Even though everyone has problems, it is not up to each person to point them out. Life is hard enough, and picking over the little things will not help. Although life is short, it is the longest thing you will do, so appreciate it. Hopefully this blog will be useful to someone someday... somewhere.